What to Do When You Notice Early Memory Changes in a Loved One

How to recognize signs, start conversations, and find support when you’re concerned about cognitive changes

Caring for an aging parent or loved one comes with many emotions - pride in their independence, gratitude for shared memories, and sometimes, quiet concern when something feels “off.”

If you’ve recently noticed changes in memory, behavior, or daily functioning, you’re not alone. Early cognitive changes are common, and the earlier families understand what’s happening, the better prepared they are to support a loved one’s safety, dignity, and well-being.

Caring for my mom as she developed Frontal Temporal Dementia was one of the most challenging and meaningful experiences of my life. I learned firsthand how overwhelming the uncertainty can feel - and how much a little guidance and support can ease the journey.

This guide walks you through what to watch for, how to have difficult conversations with compassion, and what proactive steps can help you plan ahead with confidence.

Common Early Signs of Memory Change

While occasional forgetfulness is normal, consistent patterns may signal the beginning stages of cognitive decline or dementia. Watch for:

Subtle behavioral and cognitive changes

• Increased forgetfulness or repeating questions

• Misplacing items or difficulty retracing steps

• Confusion around dates, time, or familiar places

• Difficulty following conversations or instructions

Shifts in mood or personality

• Irritability, anxiety, or unusual frustration

• Withdrawal from social activities or hobbies

• A noticeable loss of confidence in tasks they once handled easily

Daily living challenges

• Missed bills or unopened mail

• Changes in hygiene or grooming

• Trouble with meal prep, medication routines, or household tasks

If you notice two or more of these changes over time, it’s wise to take supportive next steps.

How to Start a Gentle, Supportive Conversation

This can feel emotional and uncomfortable - for everyone involved. Approach with empathy, patience, and love.

Try language like:

“I’ve noticed a few things lately and wanted to check in because I care about you.”

“Have you felt forgetful or overwhelmed with daily tasks recently?”

“How can we work together so you feel supported and confident moving forward?”

Avoid correcting or arguing about memories - instead, focus on shared understanding and reassurance.

Next Steps if You’re Concerned

1. Schedule a Medical Evaluation

Ask your loved one’s primary care physician about:

• Cognitive screening tests

• Medication review (some meds mimic dementia symptoms)

• Depression, sleep, or vitamin deficiency screening

• Referrals to neurology or geriatric specialists

Early evaluation leads to better planning and better care options.

2. Begin Important Legal & Care Planning

Even if things are mild right now, this is the right moment to confirm:

• Durable Power of Attorney

• Medical Power of Attorney

• Advance directives

• Will or trust documents

• HIPAA releases

Getting these in place early protects your loved one and your family.

3. Assess Safety and Support Needs

Think about where help may be beneficial:

• Medication reminders

• Driving safety

• Meal support

• Home modifications or safety devices

• Part-time in-home care

Start small and adjust as needed.

4. Explore Care Options Early

You don’t need to make decisions today - but learning options in advance reduces stress later.

This may include:

• Staying home with support

• Memory care communities

• Adult day programs

• Respite care

Many families tell us one of the best decisions they made was beginning the planning process before a crisis.

When to Consider Memory Care Support

Signs that a higher level of support may be helpful include:

• Safety concerns (wandering, cooking risks, falls)

• Increasing confusion or anxiety

• Difficulty managing medications or daily tasks

• Social isolation

The right community can provide safety, consistency, engagement, and compassionate support - while giving families peace of mind.

You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone

If you’re worried about a loved one’s memory or health, take a breath - help exists, and you’re doing the right thing by looking ahead.

FamilyPath Senior Solutions provides no-cost, local guidance to help families:

• Recognize early signs and find the right resources

• Navigate memory care and senior living options

• Connect with trusted medical, legal, and care partners

• Tour communities and make informed decisions — with confidence

You don’t need to have all the answers. You just need the right support.

Have questions or need guidance?

We’re here to help. Call or text us anytime: (248) 520-9318

Because caring for a loved one can be overwhelming -

finding local support doesn’t have to be.